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Eileen Gu's advice for women in competitive spaces: ‘Be your own fish’

By: The Straits Times
Length: 41 min
Language: English
Text from: the video's captions
Transcribed: 14 October 2026

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Summary

In this conversation at Singapore Management University, Olympic freestyle skier Eileen Gu speaks with Professor Kong about training the mind, neuroplasticity, AI, talent versus hard work, and her relationship with her mother. She argues that AI can strengthen human agency rather than diminish it, that talent matters far less than the decisions we make, and that self-knowledge is the most transferable skill. On women in competitive spaces, she advises listeners to stop comparing themselves to others and 'be your own fish.'

Key points

Eileen Gu says neuroplasticity in everyday life comes from self-observation — noticing what fear, doubt and nerves feel like and choosing your direction of growth.
She argues AI strengthens rather than diminishes human agency, because writing good prompts requires doubt and self-informed thinking, like the Socratic method.
She compares AI to airbag technology in skiing, which made training safer and accelerated the sport's progress rather than capping human potential.
She believes talent is a very small portion of success and that limiting beliefs are more detrimental than any lack of talent.
She credits her mother with giving her choices as a child and freedom to choose as she grew, describing them as co-founders rather than a tiger-mum relationship.
She says skills are transferable: she is good at skiing because she knows how to learn and is resilient in the face of failure.
Her advice for women in competitive spaces is to stop comparing with others and 'be your own fish,' since there is more than one seat in the room.
The question she would ask her future self is what inputs were most productive in finding the right direction, because direction matters more than hard work.

Questions it answers

02:56Training the mind

What does training the mind and stretching neuroplasticity look like in everyday life?

Eileen Gu says it starts with self-observation: noticing how you feel in a given moment, what fear, doubt and nerves feel like, and what direction you want to move in. Because every new trick in free skiing breaks a boundary, she treats life as experimentation and believes almost every boundary is somewhat plastic.

Progressing in free skiing means breaking physical, mental and emotional boundaries every time.
Neuroplasticity comes from self-observation: noticing what fear, doubt and nerves feel like.
Almost every boundary is somewhat plastic and can be expanded.

05:09AI and human agency

Does AI endanger our ability to think for ourselves?

Gu argues the opposite: prompting AI well requires starting from doubt and self-informed thinking, echoing Descartes' 'I doubt, therefore I think.' She compares AI to airbag technology in skiing, which made the sport safer and accelerated progress rather than capping human potential. She is cautious about delegating your life to AI, and says the work of getting to know oneself can never be replaced.

Writing a good prompt requires starting from doubt and self-informed thinking.
The airbag technology in skiing made the sport safer and accelerated progress, especially for women.
AI is a question of pace, not replacement; the struggle may actually increase.

13:18Sport, technology and intuition

Where should we draw the line between technology and human potential in sport?

Gu says split-second judgment decisions and intuition around fear must remain human. Data analytics can tell her everything looks perfect, but if her subconscious is not bought in, the trick will not happen. She names video review as the technology with the biggest impact on her training, and expects more force analytics in the future.

If her subconscious is not bought in, the trick is not happening, regardless of the data.
Video review is the biggest technology impact on her training.
She relishes figuring things out at the cutting edge of her sport.

17:16Talent versus hard work

Is talent innate or cultivated?

Gu believes talent stands a very small portion, especially as you get older, because decisions compound over time. She warns that believing you have a ceiling or a floor is more detrimental than any lack of talent, since we are a collection of all the decisions we have ever made.

Talent matters less as decisions compound over time.
Limiting beliefs are more detrimental than any lack of talent.
What matters is where you end up and who you become.

19:23Her mother and parenting

How did Eileen Gu's mother shape her excellence?

Gu describes her mother as giving her every activity as a child — ballet, piano, archery, basketball, soccer, skiing, math camp — to optimize for play and optionality, then trusting her with the freedom and responsibility to choose. She calls them co-founders who travel, live and work together, debating from different starting points with mutual respect.

Her mother gave her choices when young, then freedom to choose.
She was the opposite of a tiger mom, vigorously enforcing freedom and agency.
Gu describes herself and her mother as co-founders who debate and grow together.

25:00Transferable skills and ecosystems

What advice does she have for people without supportive conditions, and what should a supportive ecosystem look like?

Gu says she is good at skiing not because of double corks but because she knows how to learn and is resilient in the face of failure — skills are transferable. Knowing who you are is your toolkit, and everyone has inherent value. A good ecosystem needs mutual respect, curiosity, resilience and community.

Skills are transferable; knowing yourself is your toolkit.
A supportive ecosystem needs mutual respect, curiosity, resilience and community.
Legacy is an inflection point that makes everyone around you better.

30:33Competition and belonging

What did Eileen Gu learn about competition as the only girl on her ski team?

She recalls being the only girl on her ski team at age 7 or 8, and the moment she volunteered to slide a rail first for a sticker. That taught her competition is about pushing each other to be better, feeling empowered to try, not being afraid to be first or to fail, and celebrating when others succeed.

Competition is about pushing each other to be better, not beating others.
Don't be afraid to be the first or to fail.
Celebrate when others surpass you — a rising tide raises all ships.

34:04Be your own fish

What is Eileen Gu's advice for women in competitive spaces?

Gu says now is an interesting time to be a young woman with more opportunities than ever, and warns against the mindset that there is only space for one woman in the room. The competition is rarely other people — it is being good enough to provide value. She concludes: stop looking at the other fish and 'be your own fish.'

There are more seats in the room than one; competition is rarely other people.
Only you have your unique perspective, history and skillset.
Be your own fish — a pretty fish, a shiny fish, a vegetarian fish.

Notes

Training the mind and neuroplasticity

Eileen Gu says progressing in free skiing means asking your body to do something it has never done before, breaking physical, mental and emotional boundaries each time.
Neuroplasticity in everyday life comes from self-observation: noticing what fear, doubt, nerves and pressure feel like, and what direction you want to move in.
She stresses that almost every boundary is somewhat plastic, so there is always potential to grow and change.

AI and human agency

Referencing Descartes — "I doubt, therefore I think, I think therefore I am" — she argues that writing good prompts requires starting from doubt and self-informed thinking.
She compares AI to airbag technology in skiing: because it is safer, skiers progress faster and do bigger tricks, especially women in the sport.
She is cautious about "delegating your life to AI" and says the work of getting to know oneself will always remain your own; in any other way it would be contrived and corrupted.
AI changes pace rather than replacing struggle; she references the hedonic treadmill and says people adapt quickly and move even faster.

Sport, technology and intuition

Split-second judgment and intuition around fear should remain human tests: data can say "go," but if her subconscious is not bought in, the trick is not happening.
Video review is the technology with the biggest impact on her training, capturing micro neuromuscular movement and bridging the gap between how something feels and what is true.
She expects more force analytic data in the future but enjoys the puzzle of figuring things out at the cutting edge.

Talent, hard work and her mother

Talent stands a "very, very, very small portion," especially as you get older, because decisions compound; limiting beliefs are more detrimental than any lack of talent.
Her mother gave her every activity as a child (ballet, piano, archery, basketball, soccer, math camp) to optimize for play and optionality, then gave her freedom and responsibility to choose.
She rejects the "tiger mom" label for her mother, calling them co-founders who debate, disagree and grow together.

Competition, women and being your own fish

As the only girl on her ski team at age 7 or 8, sliding the rail first taught her competition is about pushing each other to be better and celebrating others' success.
She urges women not to see only one seat in the room; a rising tide raises all ships.
Her closing advice: "Stop looking at the other fish... Be your own fish."

Question for her future self

She would ask what inputs and observations were most productive in finding the path she cared about most, because working hard is not as hard as finding the right direction.

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